How do we measure our everyday experiences?
Where do the measurements start?
Truly, what is underneath the measurement of our experiences?
Judgement
Our judgement begins with an evaluation, was it a good or bad experience?
We search for supporting evidence of what made it a good or bad experience. Our logic determines justification of why it was a good or bad experience.
There are an array of perceptive factors that categorize the experience into labeling it good or bad.
Isn’t it interesting, how we perceive an experience as good or bad, may not be the same perception as someone who views the same experience.
How does our connection to the judgement affect our feelings towards what made the experience good or bad?
The judgement expands into other areas of strict evaluation.
Self Criticism
The measurement intensifies with self evaluation. Harsh questions that require an answer, did I do enough?
When the questions arrive at a “why” question, the measurements become painfully clear. Why didn’t I do more?
Statements such as, “I should have…..” move the evaluation closer to where the measurements of the experience fit into perception.
However, the measurement evaluations move further from logic to have a true assessment of the experience.
Success or Failure
The choice to observe and reflect on the results is naturally common. It may seem like the clearest form of evaluation. Did the results correlate with the plan?
If all or at least some of the plan was executed there can be an allowance of measurement of success. If the outcome wasn’t exactly or no corresponding desired result, it is deemed a failure.
There is slight tolerance for objectively deciding on the outcome evaluation.
Comparison
One of the least accurate ways that measure our experiences is through the comparison method. “My experience is different than another person’s experience for the same outcome I want.”
The meaning from that comparison forms a story which influences the evaluation of the experience and a measurement is produced.
Logic and reasoning has been abandoned in this process of evaluation. The measurement intensifies to include personal evaluation of self through the lens of doubt and self worth. Unrealistic expectations start to form that are not congruent with where we are at in our experiential process.
Most likely, the experience is concluded to be, a failure internally and externally.
A question that gets overlooked is, what is influencing the comparison?
Another Standard of Measurement
If there are outcome-related measuring systems we can apply to our experiences, might there also be a different standard of measuring our experiences?
Can measurements of our experiences be more expansive than the external evaluation of results?
What if the depth of our measurements could also reflect the depth of our inner leadership?
Some example measurements might be reflecting on our embodiment of intentions, integrity, resilience, compassion, trust, resourcefulness, adapting, determination, presence.
Reflective Inner Leadership Measurements
How, and in what ways was I being true to my intentions in the experience?
How was I making my integrity an important aspect of the experience?
How was my resilience impacting the efforts in my experience?
How did my efforts impact my determination?
How did compassion contribute to the outcome of my experience, and overall?
How was trust present throughout the experience?
How was my resourcefulness sourced and used throughout the experience?
What allowed me to adapt throughout the experience?
In what moments was I present in my experience?
In those moments of presence, what is my true measurement of my experience?
If inner leadership were used as a standard measurement, the outcome would always be a success.