What makes it so hard to let go of hurt, pain, loss?

I have found it is the fear of how much of suffering will have to be endured until it goes away.

The thought of what has been impacted by the pain.

The constant attachment to the thoughts and emotions that continue to be a reminder of each experience.

When the choice is made to hold onto what is causing the fear, instantly choices become limited.

There is a meaning that has been attached to what is feared. The fear has become the focus of reality and all the decisions being made are based around the fear.

Letting go becomes a process. Going through the process of letting go requires presence.

There is a realization that there is no need to avoid what is desired to be let go of.

The internal process starts with awareness. Being aware of what is triggering the fear, and what the actual fear is.

Next is to acknowledge that the fear exists and what is being created by the fear.

Finally, it is accepting that you have a fear of what is being experienced. You are experiencing it in the moment, and that’s okay.

This gives the opportunity to shift perspective and it opens the possibility for choice.

Needing to express what needs to be expressed. The opportunity opens up for self compassion, forgiveness, gratitude.

This helps to form beliefs that attract focus for what is desired rather than what is being created by the fears.

Where would you like to be placing your focus?

Letting go becomes more about trust and belief in something greater than the fear that is being held onto. -Kristin Sven Larsen

 

Surrendering To Presence In Life

Challenges Getting In The Way

The experiences encountered in life can present challenges in the way our thoughts interact with them. Emotions may reinforce the thoughts which produce the perception that the situation is difficult to navigate with the creation of doubts and worry.

The struggle that is encountered is met with ways that are decided to alleviate the suffering.

Sometimes this translates into enduring the suffering because it is resisted.

Struggle and discomfort always come with a choice.

The choice is accentuated if the  choice to see the resistance being held onto is viewed as less important than what is desired to be thinking and feeling.

The obstacle is seeing past all the things that are getting in the way of realizing that.

Surrendering becomes a spiritual process. The choice can only be made in presence.

Believing you are enough as you are now, to make that choice.

What this means is the only choice needed to surrender is presence.

Held within presence is to accept “what is.”

Closing your eyes, feeling into presence. Relaxing your body. Feeling your soul.

Giving yourself permission to surrender. Choosing to release the struggle.

Asking Yourself

Asking yourself, “what am I holding resistance to?”

“Why is it important I hold this resistance?”

“What do I gain from holding onto it?”

“What would happen if I let it go?”

I envision myself letting go of what I am surrendering to.

What happens?

What happens to my thoughts?

What happens to my emotions?
I thank myself for doing my best in these moments.

I allow myself to let go and surrender.

The resistance that was present disappears.

In that moment I am free.

That moment is filled with gratitude and presence.

Compassion Brings Me Back To Inner Peace

In this moment I am free.

It becomes easier to do it again if I choose to surrender.

“Surrendering becomes a spiritual process. The choice can only be made in presence.”

– Kristin Sven Larsen


Accept


Struggle is something that can’t be avoided at certain times in life. 

There are two choices that can be made when struggle appears.

It can be accepted or avoided.

Accepting the moment of struggle means seeing it as it actually is in the moment. That could be subjective, but what it really means is to accept what is being experienced in the moment.

Once resistance is chosen as the actionable thought, the struggle continues to evolve.

Avoiding can take the form of denial, repressing or blame.

Imagine avoiding who you are being, who someonelse is being, or what the situation is in the moment?

What is being created by avoiding?

Permission for irresponsibility and disregard for choice.

Accepting of “what is” in the moment gives permission for accountability and allows for personal ownership of the experience.

Accepting the moment filters down to fear. A subconscious thought may be, “if I avoid, repress or deny what is being experienced I will stay out of feeling hopeless and helpless.”

This may work for a brief time, then the resistance and struggle compiles.

You cannot change what you do not accept.

It doesn’t mean you have to like what you are accepting. That is when the power of choice is is presented. 

Acceptance can turn into action. You can lead yourself to be in charge of the choices.

It is not about giving up and quitting. 

In that moment, accept the experience for what it is without the need to blame or avoid no matter what the fear may be.

Acceptance shifts the experience. It opens the door to welcome new ways of being.

New ways of being create opportunities and possibilities. 

Acceptance can be thought of as a mirror reflection of what’s possible.

  • Frustration – Satisfied
  • Irritable – Patient
  • Anger – Calm
  • Mistake – Learning

A realization needs to develop through the choices of accepting what is happening. It makes it easier to accept the fears that are being avoided because accountability is formed from being present in the moment.

 

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Acknowledge


The constructs of life are moments and experiences.

Within those experiences are the moments that accompany a choice. The choice to be present with them or let them pass by without acknowledging them.

It requires acknowledging them for what they are. Acknowledgment gets lost when they are viewed as what they are not or what they could be.

The experiences could be made from interactions with others or how a situation is presenting itself.

To acknowledge something means to admit it’s existence, to admit something has been received.

There are many aspects in life that can be acknowledged. It is part of the process of presence.

Acknowledge yourself. This could be through appreciation of who you are being in life or what you are doing in life. What you have in life. 

Allowing ourselves to acknowledge all our feelings and thoughts in their true form. With or without judgement. Simply acknowledging they exist.

It could also be accountability. Acknowledging mistakes or short comings. It helps to move from a place of fear and opens the window of possibility.

Most importantly, acknowledge where you are, in any experience. Being present to what is happening or the people you are connecting with in that experience.

Choose to acknowledge the gratitude for the experience. Then it will be present in the experience.

This means appreciating yourself, appreciating others and appreciating life. 

Celebrating all the elements that contribute to the moment you are living in.

It can mean shifting focus and changing the narrative. A perspective that creates hope and possibility.

It can mean admitting what is real and then deciding how to acknowledge the moment as it continues.

 

 

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Awareness


Life has a way of showing us things. It has a way of revealing what we need to see. 

What is the purpose for the need to see what is being revealed?

It provides choice and opportunity. That could mean many things for each person.

It could mean growth. It could mean love. It could mean trust. It could mean forgiveness.

What is being revealed is seen because of the way we are being present with ourselves to see it.

In order for any change in life to occur requires awareness to make the change possible.

Awareness is a piece of presence that offers choices. 

It is a form of self reflection. Being present with thoughts, emotions, behaviors.

Without awareness, the same patterns will continue. The same outcomes will continue to unfold. Those outcomes may not be the ones that are desired.

It helps to move away from “always reacting” or feeling like, “things are constantly out of control.”

Being able to shift perspective through awareness aids in the process of desired change.

The internal changes support the external changes to occur.

Our self awareness impacts the way we interact with thoughts, which influence emotions and dictate our behaviors.

How might this affect our daily interactions? How might this affect our daily decisions?

Only presence can bring awareness. Without it, things are distorted and perception becomes misaligned.

How can awareness become part of daily living?

Try to get in tune with listening to yourself and others. Remove the judgements and attachments to thoughts and emotions. 

This can be achieved through disciplined activities such as yoga, meditation, journaling, taking time to reflect.

Awareness is the first powerful step in the process of transforming your life and making an impact in the lives of others.

 

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Hello,

My name is Kristin Larsen.

You might be wondering, “What brought me to this moment?”
My journey has not always been easy. There were many years of struggle filled with self-judgment, perfectionism, self-doubt and worry. They were fueled by the feelings of inadequacy; not feeling worthy or enough. This mental suffering created a world of depression and anxiety, which made every day seem hopeless. It made me feel helpless

Eventually, a moment came where I made a choice

I could continue living in suffering or begin taking steps to change the situation that I was creating. It was through health habit change, dedication to personal growth, and self-compassion that I chose to transform internal suffering into a new way of living. This journey helped me live into my core values of:

 

integrity, courage, connection, giving, creativity, growth & compassion!

 

On this journey there were many small steps that created change and brought clarity to my life. This revealed more opportunities and challenges. With self-compassion and going within, I was able to overcome those challenges and step into the opportunities which molded me into who I am today. That was when the realization came, I was forging a new path. 

At that point I realized, my journey is never-ending

To continue growing as a person, as a father, as a husband and as a friend, I decided to make an investment. That investment was in building my awareness and becoming more present. I asked myself, “who am I in my life?” I chose to embrace inner peace and awaken to a new source of love and acceptance.

 

From the source of “I AM” enough,

I am capable of being exactly

who I want to be,

I am worthy of

Whatever I Choose,

I am

Blessed

& I appreciate

My Life