Kristin Larsen

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A Choice For Being In The Struggle

Is there a choice for being in the struggle?

It would seem simple to say, “I can choose not be in the struggle” when you are so far in it.

It is all encompassing in the moments of suffering. It can feel like there is no way out. A continuous cycle that keeps pulling you in.

It becomes part of you. Add the compiled emotions that layer the perspectives within the experience. It evolves into a momentous journey of coping through resistance.

Focusing on the struggle and devoting all energy to it’s resistance. You become part it, and it becomes part of you.

You begin to identify as the struggle. It is not separate from you. You are the struggle.

It becomes consuming. Depleting available energy and resources.

Everyone faces struggle at some point. I wonder, how long does it have to last?

The unconscious awareness of choice

There is a common acceptance of living in victimhood from reinforced thoughts of believing in a diminished self worth. Anger and blame are the easiest and most obvious forms of asserting a sense of control for the situation.

The unconscious choice that is always available that isn’t commonly realized is the acknowledgement of responsibility.

When the deeper sources of personal accountability are acknowledged, a shift begins to occur in other perspectives that someone  recognizes. The thoughts follow and the expansion of possibility and opportunity enter the lens of one’s reality.

The ego eases it’s grip from wanting to be in complete control to do what it does best, to help someone establish safety in their survival mode of operation.

Compassion is allowed to assist with the formulation of new interpretations of the experience. An invitation to be part of an aligned solution to move forward.

What is the investment into the struggle?

An awakening happens with the realization of how much time and energy is being invested in the struggle.

What starts off as a seed of trust, blossoms into an emergence of emotional fortitude inside yourself. A reborn faith in optimism.

“The world is not against me. I only perceived it that way.” A deeper question of clarity forms, “If I am supported, what is possible now? What am I capable of now?”

Changing of the seasons

The aliveness returns. It was a journey. A process filled with learning.

“What did I learn in that journey?”

“How would I approach another struggle differently in the future?”

The season of change is inside me. My perception was formed in my thoughts. I didn’t see my choices available to me at the time.

I may encounter a struggle again, but I now know it can change like the seasons. With the change of seasons, I can adapt. I will survive. I get to make choices that nourish me, that lift my spirits.

I am not my struggle. I am not the suffering.

I can acknowledge and honor the thoughts of my struggle, but my intention is  _________.

I AM ______.

A life struggle is a perception that invites a choice to redefine who I choose to be in the thoughts it creates.

Negative Self Talk Dilemma

The Inner Voice Guidance

There is an inner voice we all have that is communicating. If you think it is muted, you might be unconsciously aware of what is being communicated internally.

The challenge is cultivating the awareness to hear when the inner voice is speaking. Move through the conflict of the negative self talk dilemma. Many people think if they choose to listen they might have to do or be what the voice is communicating. Taking what is being said as “truth.”

I have found that by choosing not to acknowledge the voice, it continues to get intensified, trying to get my attention.

The inner voice can either be mentally building us up or tearing us down.

It can be the difference between choosing resilience to be in a state we want or give up on the vision of what is possible. The term “giving up” can mean many things.

 What Giving Up Could Mean

  • allow a moment of challenge to define disempowerment
  • admit defeat or failure without a take-away
  • obstruct the flow of creative genius
  • forfeit self worth
  • ignore the choice of perspectives and possibilities
  • reject personal capability
  • denial of faith or hope
  • concede that there is no other way

There could be many more meanings that could be formed from one’s personal life definitions of “giving up.”

What remains to be true is the negative self talk aspects that limit the beliefs surrounding the idea or vision of “what is possible.”

What Does Negative Self Talk Really Mean

The goal of negative self talk is safety. The positive intention behind this type of communication is to avoid or prepare for the painful feelings derived from the mentally draining thoughts that create them. The perception that it won’t be as much of a shock if it happens because it was expected.

Learning to Shift the Negative Self Talk

The negative self talk can be appreciated when the intention is known. It’s meaning can be open to change. It does not have to mean it is the truth. When that aspect of “untruth” is acknowledged, a new insertion of meaning can be explored.

The self talk can be transformed into a new realm of positivity and empowered thoughts.

The transformation is possible because of choice. Choosing an intention for thought and becoming aligned in those thoughts.

Some chosen intentions to become aligned in thought could be; compassion, gratitude, trust, love, courage, curiosity, etc.

Whatever the chosen intentions are, they reflect the need to act on one’s potential, performance, possibility and purpose.

Courage over-rides the fears;

The fears of failing

The fears of doubting.

The fears of perfection.

The new self talk phrases align with the core messages;

“I can do this” 

“this is possible”

“Taking action now is more important than worrying about the outcome”

Shifting those moments of negative self talk requires practice and awareness. Understanding when the triggering patterns become active.

Stopping and slowing down.

Breathing.

Realigning to a chosen intention.

Refocusing on aligned inner communication.

A connectedness of communication that transforms the inner being of who you think you are, expanding what is possible through the wider scope of potential.

Acknowledgement of a strongly aligned intention reveals the vision to choose expanded transformational language.

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