Struggle is something that can’t be avoided at certain times in life.
There are two choices that can be made when struggle appears.
It can be accepted or avoided.
Accepting the moment of struggle means seeing it as it actually is in the moment. That could be subjective, but what it really means is to accept what is being experienced in the moment.
Once resistance is chosen as the actionable thought, the struggle continues to evolve.
Avoiding can take the form of denial, repressing or blame.
Imagine avoiding who you are being, who someonelse is being, or what the situation is in the moment?
What is being created by avoiding?
Permission for irresponsibility and disregard for choice.
Accepting of “what is” in the moment gives permission for accountability and allows for personal ownership of the experience.
Accepting the moment filters down to fear. A subconscious thought may be, “if I avoid, repress or deny what is being experienced I will stay out of feeling hopeless and helpless.”
This may work for a brief time, then the resistance and struggle compiles.
You cannot change what you do not accept.
It doesn’t mean you have to like what you are accepting. That is when the power of choice is is presented.
Acceptance can turn into action. You can lead yourself to be in charge of the choices.
It is not about giving up and quitting.
In that moment, accept the experience for what it is without the need to blame or avoid no matter what the fear may be.
Acceptance shifts the experience. It opens the door to welcome new ways of being.
New ways of being create opportunities and possibilities.
Acceptance can be thought of as a mirror reflection of what’s possible.
- Frustration – Satisfied
- Irritable – Patient
- Anger – Calm
- Mistake – Learning
A realization needs to develop through the choices of accepting what is happening. It makes it easier to accept the fears that are being avoided because accountability is formed from being present in the moment.