Kristin Larsen

Coming Back To The Connected Self

The feelings of disconnection, disarray, being uncentred, feeling dysfunctional, and disassociation have taken over. How is coming back to the connected self possible?

Recalibrate to connect

Attunement is the gift waiting to be recognized. Feeling the breath and regulating it’s alignment to a calmness that feels safe.

Each breath is slowing and pausing with a deepness that exudes a state of peace. It is the starting point of the transition to be fully present with oneself.

Practice what brings presence and inner harmony

The practice requires discipline in moments of presence and inner harmony. The practice in those moments is when the gradual transition occurs during the moments of disconnection and hardship.

Simplicity is usually easier to implement than complexity. A routine that consists of rituals that are easily repeatable supports a stronger foundation than an occasional practice. It is a commitment to condition the mind that can transform coming back to presence in any situation.

Essential support outlets

Taking accountability and solving challenges in your own way is an important part of learning and growth. It doesn’t mean that necessary support is disregarded in the process. It is essential to recognize that when proper support outlets are utilized, they can help us move forward or overcome obstacles in our own way of thinking or operating. It means not confusing determination with shame. The feelings of unworthiness can also prevent many people from utilizing the essential support outlets.

Being intentional

Commitment is a crucial detail in being intentional. To come back to the connected self means shifting to a new vision of being intentional about fully integrating the desired actions. It means deeply embracing the integrity of connection. It is necessary to be aware of things that get in the way of upholding integrity. Awareness is the opportunity to make the adjustments to align with integrity. Specifically, when integrity has been broken.

Nourishment of mind, body, and soul

The inner self knows when parts of ourselves are not in alignment with connection. Usually, a feeling of unease and a lack of fulfillment in the three areas of mind, body, and soul are often key signs of disconnection. There are many ways to nourish the mind, body, and soul with various tools and resources. It can begin with a simple implementation and increase habits that nourish what is lacking over time.

Affirming faith

Faith can be an integral element of being connected spiritually. The other element of affirming faith is the trust that gets created in the process. Trust is a guiding principle in coming back to connection. The trust also supports maintaining connectedness in all aspects of life.

Sitting with the discomfort

It doesn’t usually feel pleasant to sit with discomfort. What can be realized in the discomfort is an opportunity. There is an opportunity for new perspectives through an awareness of what is being experienced in the discomfort. There is a choice to surrender to it, which eases the discomfort. Surrendering is another choice to let go of what is creating the discomfort. We can also acknowledge what is being experienced. This helps to move the feelings around within and shift the thoughts of stuck-ness.

What is required to reconnect

In a deeper context, what may be required to reconnect to self are things such as;

  • habit change
  • new learning
  • adapting new perspectives
  • pausing and slowing down
  • self compassion
  • mindset recalibrating

Focus will determine the duration of disconnection and the transition back into reconnection with self.

Disconnection can simply be a choice of focus. The mind will follow where the focus goes.

Realizing Your True Potential

How Do You Know What Your True Potential Is?

As life unfolds, each experience presents the opportunity to realize our true potential. 
Our true potential could manifest from many forms of action. It can be a choice, an intention, a commitment, an inspiration, a vision, a responsibility.

What if it was as simple as acknowledging who you would like to be in a moment, believing in your capability, having conviction in what is possible?


If you think about these 3 statements, what arises within you?


The true potential understands the acceptance in those statements.
The focus of true potential is not concerned with worry or doubt in the moment.
The present moment IS the objective, to thrive in the fullest expression of yourself. Contained within that fullness of expression is immense gratitude.

When Will Be The Moment Of Realizing Your True Potential?


A noticeable shift will occur. The shift is an inner energy that accompanies a chosen state of being. It is a higher state of consciousness. An attuned frequency that connects to your soul. A decision to accept capability to embrace the true potential within you. The focus of concern for a result, a failure or attachment to other external influences fades into the background as the courageous authentic form of yourself leads with powerful intention and integrity.

When were the moments in your life where you accessed your true potential?

Take a moment to reflect what occurred within yourself during those moments.

What shifted in your thoughts? 

What shifted in your energy?

What shifted in your perspective or focus?

What shifted in beliefs?

What shifted in your physiology? 

What was your new self concept of yourself?

There are 4 experiences that come to my mind when I think of some defining moments in my life where I made the decision to access my true potential;

  • The Birth of our first child
  • Performing new job role in my work career
  • Enrolling in a health coaching course
  • Participating in a transformational leadership course

The Choice to Embrace Everything That Already Exists Within

To add some context, these four experiences were lived in five years or more apart from each other. They layered learning and growth that I had navigated in my life to that point.

The first experience was the birth of our first child. Leading to that moment was excitement, anticipation, excellence, quest for knowledge, preparation. These areas of focus minimized the worry and doubt. I had already committed to being the best father I could be. My only worries or doubts came in the form of not being able to live up to those expectations I was committing to.The true potential I was able to access was being able to adapt to situations and become resourceful quickly. Embracing an embodiment of self compassion and loving care. Accepting a responsibility to something/someone that served a purpose greater than myself. I was able to do many things I had never done before or thought I could do with such confidence. The moment my child was presented to me, I held him with amazement and wonder. How could I be holding such a gift of life in my arms? It was a precious, sacred moment that filled me with pure joy and gratitude. My true potential emerged to be my commitment through my intentions each day. To be a supportive husband and loving partnership in the learning and growth in those new moments.

The second experience was performing a new role in my work career. Feeling stagnant at my work, I decided to try something new. It meant getting outside my comfort zone. It meant there was a potential for making mistakes. The opportunity was presented to develop my communication skills, conceptualize processes, adapt to learning, and share ideas to support the performance of others to implement their new learning. It meant being committed to being an important part of establishing a team effort to maximize the development of effective results.

The third experience was enrolling in a health coaching program because I came to the realization it was my calling. It required me to look within myself and be present with my insecurities. To put the higher purpose of supporting someone before my own egoic agenda. I learned how to ask powerful questions, understand what contributes to a strong mindset and healthy functioning in life. Helping someone to implement many habits that are life changing. It was something I could help someone make transformational changes in their life. All because I was able to hold a space of compassion, support, accountability, encouragement and possibility. They were powerful intentions that I embraced within myself.

The fourth experience was participating in a transformational leadership course. Over a 3 month period I created a strong bond with other program participants. We practiced living into our intentions, supporting each other, being a stand for each other, holding each other accountable, connecting with each other, loving each other and holding each other at our highest selves. It was a challenging experience which brought out many patterns that created obstacles for ourselves, limiting beliefs, and pain that required presence and healing. There were lessons in every part of the experience. I released parts of me that I knew were inside but not able to come out and lead. I was introduced to what it feels like to live in higher self. To let go and surrender to what is. To accept myself for who I am so I could be the person I chose through my commitment and intentions.

What these experiences taught me was that a direct connection between possibility and potential exists. Believing in both and trusting that a higher dimension of oneself is awaiting acknowledgement. What got in the way of realizing my true potential was my ego, daily habits that were not supporting my higher self, my continual patterns of disfunction and the required healing to let go of the attachment to inner suffering. It prevented me from being the full expression of my authentic self and to embrace the wholehearted person that I am meant to be in life.

What have the pivotal moments in your life taught you about what holds you back from realizing your true potential?

A choice exists to view true potential as a future possibility that allows the belief to also be a present reality.

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