Coming Back To The Connected Self

Posted on November 21, 2025 by Kristin Larsen

The feelings of disconnection, disarray, being uncentred, feeling dysfunctional, and disassociation have taken over. How is coming back to the connected self possible?

Recalibrate to connect

Attunement is the gift waiting to be recognized. Feeling the breath and regulating it’s alignment to a calmness that feels safe.

Each breath is slowing and pausing with a deepness that exudes a state of peace. It is the starting point of the transition to be fully present with oneself.

Practice what brings presence and inner harmony

The practice requires discipline in moments of presence and inner harmony. The practice in those moments is when the gradual transition occurs during the moments of disconnection and hardship.

Simplicity is usually easier to implement than complexity. A routine that consists of rituals that are easily repeatable supports a stronger foundation than an occasional practice. It is a commitment to condition the mind that can transform coming back to presence in any situation.

Essential support outlets

Taking accountability and solving challenges in your own way is an important part of learning and growth. It doesn’t mean that necessary support is disregarded in the process. It is essential to recognize that when proper support outlets are utilized, they can help us move forward or overcome obstacles in our own way of thinking or operating. It means not confusing determination with shame. The feelings of unworthiness can also prevent many people from utilizing the essential support outlets.

Being intentional

Commitment is a crucial detail in being intentional. To come back to the connected self means shifting to a new vision of being intentional about fully integrating the desired actions. It means deeply embracing the integrity of connection. It is necessary to be aware of things that get in the way of upholding integrity. Awareness is the opportunity to make the adjustments to align with integrity. Specifically, when integrity has been broken.

Nourishment of mind, body, and soul

The inner self knows when parts of ourselves are not in alignment with connection. Usually, a feeling of unease and a lack of fulfillment in the three areas of mind, body, and soul are often key signs of disconnection. There are many ways to nourish the mind, body, and soul with various tools and resources. It can begin with a simple implementation and increase habits that nourish what is lacking over time.

Affirming faith

Faith can be an integral element of being connected spiritually. The other element of affirming faith is the trust that gets created in the process. Trust is a guiding principle in coming back to connection. The trust also supports maintaining connectedness in all aspects of life.

Sitting with the discomfort

It doesn’t usually feel pleasant to sit with discomfort. What can be realized in the discomfort is an opportunity. There is an opportunity for new perspectives through an awareness of what is being experienced in the discomfort. There is a choice to surrender to it, which eases the discomfort. Surrendering is another choice to let go of what is creating the discomfort. We can also acknowledge what is being experienced. This helps to move the feelings around within and shift the thoughts of stuck-ness.

What is required to reconnect

In a deeper context, what may be required to reconnect to self are things such as;

habit change
new learning
adapting new perspectives
pausing and slowing down
self compassion
mindset recalibrating

Focus will determine the duration of disconnection and the transition back into reconnection with self.

Disconnection can simply be a choice of focus. The mind will follow where the focus goes.

Expanding The Inner Capacity For Unease

Posted on September 29, 2024 by Kristin Larsen

Many meanings could be derived from the word “unease.” A few meanings that come to my mind when I think of unease are stress, tension, struggle, and discomfort. I have thought about how someone is capable of expanding the inner capacity for unease in the moment.

As I reflect on my own experiences, I acknowledge one area of focus which helps reduce unease. It is the nourishing actions that can be taken to navigate the stresses in the experiences. The other invitation is to expand the inner capacity to be with the unease.

What could expanding the inner capacity to be with unease mean?

Staying Stuck in the Unease

In that state of frustration, helplessness, powerlessness, it is not reasonable to imagine or see the possibility to have the capacity to be with unease. It can be extremely uncomfortable. It might feel like something must be wrong. A strong-willed judgement about what is being experienced.

An inner subconscious voice says it is something that must be solved. There are steps that must be taken to relieve the suffering as if resembling some sort of systematic equation.

It feels like there is relief when a result is produced. It could be a desired outcome, remembering when a desired outcome happened, feeling belief in something, feeling accepted by others, feeling connection with others, the ideation of being right, honoring one’s own values. *

Getting Unstuck From the Unease

Something that remains constant in the discomfort of unease is choice. The ego wants to have input towards if the choice will be legitimately helpful or safe to move away from unease.

What can be helpful in transforming a disempowering experience into an empowering experience is dedicating focus to habits and behavior.

Taking the time to understand what habits support being with unease and navigating in it’s space. Some habits may include practicing self compassion, meditating, praying, slowing down to be in silence, journaling, exercise, yoga, or simply getting outside in nature.

Creating awareness for behaviors that nurture the evolution of healing and empowerment. Authentic self expression that enables acceptance for vulnerability. Having accountability for the intentions being lived into. Allowing trust to encompass being within the experience.

Being With The Unease In Grace

The discomfort is setting in. I am feeling helpless. I am not seeing choices. I am feeling the stress of this experience. I notice my breathing speeding up. My awareness offers a choice that I now see. I place my focus on my breath. I take a moment to slow it down. Giving my attention to deep inhales and exhales. My awareness is expanding. I notice the tension in my body. With each exhale, I give myself permission to release the tension from my body. In this release I give myself compassion. This is a moment of struggle. May I give myself love and understanding right now. I will let this be ok, I will be ok.

As I surrender to this moment I feel a sense of peace. I am at peace. Possibility enters my vision. Gently, I ask myself what I need right now.

Subtly, I realize I am now with the unease in a greater capacity.

Awareness awakens the possibility to surrender in the moment. The invitation to kindly ask “what is available to give to self.”

*Information referenced from National Library of Medicine, (article) The Unease Modulation Model: An Experiential Model of Stress With Implications for Health, Stress Management, and Public Policy, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6567485/

Slowing Down To Create Healthy Momentum

Posted on September 28, 2023 by Kristin Larsen

Value your needs by slowing down

It is so easy to get caught up in the fast paced moments in life.
Going from one place to the next. Doing one thing to the next.
Sometimes, (insert the metaphor) “running around forgetting that my head is attached to my
body.”

Slowing down may not seem like an option. There may not be an understanding of how to do it.
Thoughts of, “how can I afford to slow down when there is so much to do and there is not
enough time to do it all?”

Slowing down gives the opportunity to tend to your own needs while also creating healthy
momentum through presence. It allows someone to “be there” for others attentively.

It adds quality to the moments of interaction and connection. By slowing down, you also give
yourself time to process and reflect. There is the creation of perspective. In doing so, it
nourishes mental health.

Without taking time to slow down in life, it could lead to anxiety and neglect of personal care.
Then it is a constant feeling of, “I need to do more” because you might feel you are not doing
enough. Not tending to your own needs.

Some easy and effective ways to slow down are:

Take a mini break to check in with yourself
Feel yourself breathing, bring attention to your breath and control it with deep, slow
breaths
Spend some time in nature
Schedule times to put away the cell phone
Set priorities and boundaries – commit to them
Manage time efficiently through organization and delegation
Eat slower

There may be resistance to slowing down. It may be something that has just been part of
everyday life for as long as you can remember.

The creation of slower-paced moments in life is a choice that rejuvenates the mind and soul.
The creation of calming peace in your day.

It simply equates to presence. In presence there is freedom from worry about the future or past doubts.
Time is flexible and can be adjusted in many different ways. The perception of time and it’s
limitations is what makes it rigid and fixed.

When your needs are valued, life can be enjoyed in all it’s moments because you slowed down
to be in them with presence.

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