The mind can often construct distorted perceptions and stories in a state of stress. In this state, it can also seem difficult to begin the transition from worry to calm.
First, there is a focus on what is wrong, what isn’t right.
Second, shame or inadequacy makes it’s entrance.
Third, the pressure to initiate a “fix” for the moment becomes a strong incentive to comply.
What this often contributes to is a sense of not being enough.
In the moment, the reaction is to confront, resist, or navigate the fight-or-flight response.
Processing the Emotions
Being in the fight-or-flight response makes it challenging to step away from reacting. What if awareness were pre-intended beforehand?
A habit that builds within each experience. A powerful presence WITH the emotions.
Soon, the pre-intended awareness moves to the thoughts that trigger the emotions. You are no longer identifying yourself as the emotions. You see yourself as someone experiencing an emotion. It becomes two different ways of processing the emotions.
You stop to take a breath. To notice your breath and gradually slow it down. A feeling of calmness begins. You say to yourself, “I notice I’m feeling _________ right now. That’s okay to feel ____. I appreciate that I noticed it.”
The invitation for curiosity is presented. I wonder what is causing me to feel ______ right now? May I give myself a moment to be with this feeling.
A sense of peace returns. You see gratitude for the feeling that is trying to capture your attention. With each passing moment, clarity returns.
There is some space to settle with the feelings, without the obligation to force a resolution. You can let go of the need to fix something.
The Story That Supports The Worry
Worry is like an author who is actively writing a book. The antagonist is worry. It is the internal conflict. The obstacle must be identified to see the lesson that needs to be learned to let go of the worry.
Typically, the worry is an obscure fear about something that might happen if control is lost, uncertainty is not clear, and doubt persists in not knowing the answers.
The transition to calm is a deepening trust that everything will be ok.
Within this state of trusting everything will be ok,
- is surrendering to what can’t be controlled
- uncertainty can be safe
- answers are in progress
- belief of being enough in the moment
Maybe the illusion of our worry is rooted in fear. Our perception of safety will be disrupted because we aren’t sure how to control or stop it quickly enough.
What we interpret as “not being quick enough.”
The meanings take their form, and worry evolves into an elaborate story of intrigue.
How will the main character navigate the moments of intrigue?
If worry is a form of protection, what would the intention of calm be?
Kristin helps people ignite belief in themselves through established self-trust and possibility. Uniting them with their strengths and capabilities so they can let go of limitations. He guides them to deepen their relationship with themselves through healing and growth. This gives them the opportunity to live into existence with acceptance and gratitude. The new beliefs bring out their inner genius. It also helps people live in full authenticity that is driven by a strong inner purpose. A guided way of being that is rooted in connection, love, and courage. He serves with intentions of compassion, curiosity, and giving.
When Kristin is not writing or coaching he is hiking in nature, reading, exercising, and enjoying moments connecting with family and friends.