What makes it so hard to let go of hurt, pain, loss?
I have found it is the fear of how much of suffering will have to be endured until it goes away.
The thought of what has been impacted by the pain.
The constant attachment to the thoughts and emotions that continue to be a reminder of each experience.
When the choice is made to hold onto what is causing the fear, instantly choices become limited.
There is a meaning that has been attached to what is feared. The fear has become the focus of reality and all the decisions being made are based around the fear.
Letting go becomes a process. Going through the process of letting go requires presence.
There is a realization that there is no need to avoid what is desired to be let go of.
The internal process starts with awareness. Being aware of what is triggering the fear, and what the actual fear is.
Next is to acknowledge that the fear exists and what is being created by the fear.
Finally, it is accepting that you have a fear of what is being experienced. You are experiencing it in the moment, and that’s okay.
This gives the opportunity to shift perspective and it opens the possibility for choice.
Needing to express what needs to be expressed. The opportunity opens up for self compassion, forgiveness, gratitude.
This helps to form beliefs that attract focus for what is desired rather than what is being created by the fears.
Where would you like to be placing your focus?
Letting go becomes more about trust and belief in something greater than the fear that is being held onto. -Kristin Sven Larsen